I’m writing a book.
Well. To be more accurate, I’m researching a book.
People often say, “Just start writing! The book will write itself!” I have yet to see words show up on the page without me putting pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard.
But hey, there’s always the possibility of a miracle.
While I wait for the immaculate book conception, I’m gathering insight on my topic: interviewing people, reading articles and asking for insights from people who’ve lived the hard times.
There is tons of great content.
Now I just need God to send the Angel Gabriel to say, “Greetings Sarah, you who are highly favored. You are to be with BOOK, and it will be perfectly written, wonderfully crafted and powerfully effective in helping others love their neighbor in times of trial. And the Holy Spirit will come upon you and this BOOK will be written by the power of God.” 
YOU CAN BE AN ANGEL TOO.
But alas, so you don’t doubt my intentions to write said book myself, in case God does not intervene, here is a small sampling of what I’ve lived and learned thus far.
EASY WAYS TO HELP A FRIEND IN NEED
1. BE
Let this word be a guidepost to you as you navigate the path of helping someone you care about who is experiencing trial.
Be present. Be available. Be with them. Be a resource, not a drain. Be a friend. Be how you would want them to be. Be a listener. Be a confidant. Be a help mate. Be a refuge.
JUST BEING THERE for the person is the most critical.
This involves trusting the Holy Spirit (he can make child, he can sure help you in your hour of need) and not relying on our common instinct to “Fix It”. There is often little we can do to fix things.
You can demonstrate your unwavering commitment to helping a friend in trial by showing up and expecting nothing but to stand alongside them.
You may end up “doing” something practical, but sometimes waiting for them to ask is best. Being there gives you that opportunity.
2. PRAY
Lest you think I trivialize or over “Christianize” this word, it must be said that saying you’ll pray for someone and actually doing it are very different things.
This is a call to physically PRAY WITH THAT PERSON – OUT LOUD!
Yes, I did just say that.
I cannot stress this way of helping a friend enough. It is much easier to write a card or say to someone “I’m praying for you,” than it is to be present with that person and pray for them. This can be in person, on the phone or even a written prayer by email if you are constrained by space or time. (they may be overwhelmed and can receive your prayer easier this way in some cases)
Some are more “gifted” at praying than others, but do not be fooled. There is no such thing as a perfect pray-er. If we are obedient, God will show up and give us the words.
Do not rely on your own self in this area…because you will never start and you will never change the life of another by the powerful words. We simply aren’t enough in ourselves, but that’s why we serve a powerful God.
The prayers of the righteous are powerful and effective.” James 5:16
Let your words show GOD’s power. Just open your mouth (after you talk yourself out of the reasons you can’t do it) and start. I guarantee your loved one will be blessed beyond measure by the words that wash over them. (your thoughts of praying for them cannot achieve the same effect, sorry!)
So what are you waiting for? There’s someone you love in the midst of trial right now, and YOU are the perfect person to help them in their time of need.
Have you found other powerful ways to help a friend in time of trial? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments or email me at info@sarahbeckman.org