As a busy mom of 3, with a traveling husband and a part time career in ministry, I realize how easy it is to be overextended. I used to think “when my kids got older” I would achieve “nirvana” – all sorts of free time! Now the needs are just as pressing, even if they don’t include diapers, Sesame Street or piles of toys to traverse on my way to conquer mountains of laundry.
Which brings me to examine my use of time and who’s getting my best, or first.
God commands us to give our “firstfruits”. 
In biblical references, this is means the first – BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE – of what we have, presented to him. Whether is was grain, wine, olive oil, honey, livestock, they were to bring the BEST first to God as an OFFERING. This could also have been called a tithe (10{d1aeb0647e11aca2158145aa1a9b93c50a6862ffe00c217b3bb5a80532b3d8ec} of wealth/possessions.)
We learn God should be first. But after that, does my family come next?
Or do I relinquish my “firstfruits” to other people, needs and obligations outside my inner sanctum?
This concept of firstfruits has been haunting me lately, as I openly admit to you, I am not naturally inclined toward giving my family the first, best of me. I know this might sound harsh, but it is a struggle I’m sharing with you on the blog, because I think some of you might relate.
After all, isn’t it at times easier to pick up the phone and spend 1 hour counseling a friend in need than to sit on the floor playing barbies or Legos for the millionth time? Or isn’t it more satisfying to spend my “extra” time volunteering (or even being paid!) to do what I love, as opposed to filling out more school paperwork, helping with homework (that I often can’t do anyway!) or cleaning a house that they’ll just mess up within 10 minutes of arriving home?
At the risk of sounding like I don’t love my kids, playing with or spending time with them, hear me out.
I think why I am drawn to the outside world when it comes to giving of my time, talents and efforts is because usually I get more return for my investment “out there.” At least by measurable, worldly standards.
When we serve on a committee, accomplish a task that needs doing, comfort or help a friend in need, make a meal for a neighbor, organize an event, or volunteer at the school, most of the time we get some sort of recompense at the end.
A Thank You.
A “Well Done!”
An Appreciation.
An Acknowledgement.
When we serve, often times tediously, in our homes to spouse or family, this might not always be the case.
Here is what God has caused me to ask myself lately: What will it take for me to give my family my “firstfruits”? Can I put them first even if I get no worldly commendation, praise or even thanks?
To be continued…
Do you relate? Share your successes or struggles in the comments section below.