It’s not about the chocolate.

3 ways to love your mate, your neighbor, your squad

Whether you fall prey to the romance of Valentine’s Day—or despise the very same—at the heart of it is the expression of love from one to another. As an expressive person in general, I like the notion of Valentine’s day as a time set apart to tell or show people that I love them. So […]

When tragedy strikes, Alongside is a valuable tool.

after death of student, a college community comes alongside

The phone rang late on a weeknight, and I heard my son’s cracked voice on the other end of the line.  “Mom, a sophomore girl at school took her life tonight.”  The words just hung there as I tried to process this tragic news.  My thoughts immediately went to her parents—oh the sorrow! My son […]

When Fixing it is Not the Answer

How to support the people you love

don't fix it

It’s hard to believe we have lived in New Mexico for almost five years, and that my second child is graduating from High School in four weeks.  When we first moved here it was hard for my kids to adjust.  I remember vividly many days of sorrow, and each of them having their “moments.”  As […]

Ever wonder how to help a friend in need?

Video interview: 5 guidelines you should follow

A few weeks ago, I had the honor of doing a video interview with my good friend Keith Ferrin who has an amazing ministry called “That You May Know.”   Our conversation was fun and practical; highlighting 5 guidelines you should follow when you’re walking alongside a friend with cancer, illness, loss or hardship of any […]

Helping a friend in need… it’s not about you.

If you’re like me, you’ve heard the horror stories about people who face serious life-altering situations—like cancer, long-term illness, loss of a child, death of a loved one—and someone made their hardship worse by saying or doing the wrong thing.  It almost seems it’s the exception instead of the rule.  So why when we want […]